Accomodating the elderly counselors term paper
Mother came to visit me for a couple of days and when the sister was not answering the phone we both went back to her house.
I think she left the house after my sister had taken an overdose.
The sister left it all to me with an understanding that I would try to help mother -- just mother.
After 2 years of being mother's caregiver I understand.
You can say, "Mother, I love you and I'm going to take care of you, but I'm not going to talk with you or spend a single extra moment in your house if you speak to me this way." If she acts as if she has no idea what you're talking about, be specific, for example, you can say something like, "I don't want your opinion about my appearance." If she doesn't stop her belittling behavior, follow through by limiting your phone conversations and other contact with her.
I have had many nasty confrontations with her and have asked her to keep her opinions to herself and to please respect my wishes. She is extremely lazy, very over weight thus has many health issues because of it.She is not verbally abusive but extremely controlling.I am also in my fifties with grown children and a grandchild.There is no chance for a normal relationship with the mother.There was never a normal, loving relationship -- and I am 52.